Ok people sorry i haven been updating the blog these days. Have been down with flu and barely scraping through now with the irritating sore throats and the "running" noses. As much as most of you might be wishing that i'd drop dead and never come to life again, sorry to disappoint you. Right, i do have a major fan base of people that probably want to kill me. But basing that and whats happend throughout, let's pin our mind on the thoughts of friendship. Is it as fragile as what seems? or is it a matter of the trust we breach or so much so that we find new friends that "overlap" our old ones?

You know they say the road to a friend's house is never long. It is to this extent that we explain that no boundaries are within these binds of friendship and that nothin gis too far or too difficult to solve. The way i see it, We all live a long life, and we meet countless kinds of people, the ones we like, the ones we enjoy playing sports with , and the ones we simply want to kill. And this process goes on , and on without stopping. What im trying to say is that some poeple take a few years to seek themselves and decades to find that one true friend. I dare say that i have one of the closest and nice frens anyone will ever have in this world, but definitely, definitely not the best. My father once told me, a man with a thuosand friends will find it tough to choose one to spare. What are your ideas of friendship? Is it just simply keeping in contact and being funny all the time and lending a shoulder when they need help? Maybe. But they way i see it, theres more. IT is like that of a relationship. You have to click, you have to commmunicate without even a single amount of sarcasm or bicker.The real test of friendship is: can you literally do nothing with the other person? Can you enjoy those moments of life that are utterly simple?

Contrary to general belief, i do not believe that friends are necessarily the people you like best, but they are merely the people who got there first. You need not share the same likes, but it is important to recall certain times and to remember that that certain person was there for you. So you ask me if friendship is fragile, i say yes. Because we time and time try to contact whoever was once important to us. Why? because we are either too busy or too occupied with our nerw friends that we have been acquainted with. You may argue with a standpoint that you still have them in your hearts and that you miss them but that does not change the fact that we have been too busy to keep in contact. The reason to this is not the fragileity of riendship as the focus point but he focus point being that we all have been defeated by time. Why do you think at the end of a productive forty years of life, most people are left with frens they knew a few years back? What imtrying to say is that as much as we value them in our hearts, we cannot help but admit all this will be drifted away as we meet new people and enter new phases of life. You ask if friendships are fragile i say yes. But if you ask if the bonding was fragile throughout those tryingn times, i would have to say no.

Now as you are sitting on your chair reading all this, whether you are cursing my views and wishing that i'd drop dead (again) or whther you really start thinking, What is your standpoint on friendship? My father is 60 this year and he has yet to found one best friend. My father happens to be as similar a guy as i who enjoys joking around and writing. He is one of the most intelligent man i have ever known and he has taught me what i know today. Yet, he has yet to find that one person that can do the one thing that i bet most of you cannot do. And that is to stab a friend in the front. That is an account of a true friendship, to be able to tell you your errs in total outright manner . It will be an even greater beauty of friendship for him/her to accept your imperfections and take you as who you are.

Well, hope i answered your question Phebs. And folks, regardless of what happens here on out, im sure all of you will admit that you have the best company in the world. But the best is yet to come my friends. Noone tells you to forget these "present friends" as you move on in life. INstead, keep them in your hearts. That way, noone gets by you. But heres advice, dont try to be everyone's best friend, its a hard task to keep because you need to please everyone and hey unless ur perfect, how is that possible? So if you resign to fate and agree to what i say and get really upset, dun be. Cause in the next paragraphs, are the type of people you'd count yourself lucky not to be angelic good friends with.

So everyone wants to be the popular one. Everyone wants to be the centre of attention. " I want everyone to love me and i want everyone to hate whoever i hate." These are the things that stir them on to be your "best friends" ever! They go out with you, they laugh with you and then when you turn your back they say, " what a showoff, or, what an ugly outfit, or worst, boy doesn't he/she look like me?" I bet everyone does that. Hey dont be feeling guilty, noones perfect. Who says its a crime to be envious anyway? But then again, no need to overdo things.

So here i am , to introduce you your first "best" friend, lets name her, Betsy. So she's everyone's friend looking as if they r so fine and flash all the time with her group of friends. Nevertheless, instead of looking in the mirror, they poke fun at others that do not look as good. And as these not so good looking ppl come to them, they turn their back immediately with that smirk and a new mask put on their face and they go," Hi! how are you! You are looking better! where did you get that bag? Oh my God i need to get one of those too!By the way, can i borrow your chemistry notes?" And when all is said and done with, they just throw you aside. Familiar with Betsy people?

Next up, meet Lennon. Lennon is an attention seeker and loves the outright company of girls. But at the same time, he yearns to be the cool guy and the centre of attention. So he decides that he should be abang with the coolest guy in school,Louis. And with that, he phases out everybody thats close to Louis and asks him out at every opportunity. He backstabs Louis's gd friends and eventually hangs out with him. He dresses like him, he talks like him and virtually becomes him. In due time. And so the big party comes and all the chix arrive,. And so suddenly, Lennon becomes James Bond, he forgets his friends and totally humiliates them in front of the girls. Familiar with Lennon people?

Well i could rattle on and on but basically Betsy and Lennon might seem like the two same people. ****ers. But hey, they just have different opinion on friendships. Betsy finds friendship too weak to depend on. She keeps a few gd frens by her side maybe one or two and thats that. Other than that, she pokes fun at people and makes use of them. Lennon on the other hand is someone overly possesive and believes that best friends are those that share the same likes and must be those that are the coolest but he is wrong obviously.

Friendships speak a deep language. And thats not saying. If you get me, friends are those that know you inside out and help when you are in need not pretend nothing has happened just to save your face. Friends do things without you saying what you want. Friends are there, when you need it. The bottom line is this,

Life is partly what we make it, and partly what is made by the friends whom we choose